Building Adequate Relationships

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Pastor David Cho of the world’s largest church, in Seoul, Korea, has a practice with his new church start-ups, of asking his planters to spend two years in their new community just getting to know people before doing any official church work. As he puts it, “Having tea and cookies” with folks. If you don’t first know folks, nothing else matters much.

One of the big problems in much of what we attempt in life amounts to skipping the step of tea and cookies. The relationship is the very core of everything you do. If you are struggling right now to succeed with someone, perhaps it is time to just sit down, clear the air, seek humility and share some tea and cookies – or a hazelnut latte in my case.



Steve has spoken, mentored and modeled to churches and leaders around the world with the simple message that anyone – regardless of their gifting or experience – can be involved in bringing God’s loving kindness to others. His first book, Conspiracy of Kindness has been translated into several languages with more in the works. His first book has sold over 300,000 copies. Altogether his books have sold over 500,000 copies.