Pastor David Cho of the world’s largest church, in Seoul, Korea, has a practice with his new church start-ups, of asking his planters to spend two years in their new community just getting to know people before doing any official church work. As he puts it, “Having tea and cookies” with folks. If you don’t first know folks, nothing else matters much.
One of the big problems in much of what we attempt in life amounts to skipping the step of tea and cookies. The relationship is the very core of everything you do. If you are struggling right now to succeed with someone, perhaps it is time to just sit down, clear the air, seek humility and share some tea and cookies – or a hazelnut latte in my case.