Open Conversations or Closed Ones

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You are doing outreach. You approach with bottles of water. You walk up to folks and stutteringly mutter, “Um Ma’am, would you like a bottle of water today? We are showing Gods’ love in a practical way…” That approach may sound okay but I can assure you that most people will reject the offer. Why? Because you have made it a choice (not to mention you have taken a lot of their time!)

A better way to connect is to eliminate the yes-no option completely. Say, “Here’s a bottle of water. We are showing a little bit of God’s love!” (Along with the water I hand them an outreach card.) I am rarely turned down when I get rid of the yes-no option.
This holds true with other connecting areas of life. When starting a group don’t say “Would you like to be a part of my group?” Many will turn you down when you give them an option. Instead say, “We’re starting up. Join us!” People are hungry to be led. They need to be needed. Lead them with love and enthusiasm.

Steve has spoken, mentored and modeled to churches and leaders around the world with the simple message that anyone – regardless of their gifting or experience – can be involved in bringing God’s loving kindness to others. His first book, Conspiracy of Kindness has been translated into several languages with more in the works. His first book has sold over 300,000 copies. Altogether his books have sold over 500,000 copies.